I was reading through some of my older stories, deciding which ones to upload next, and realized that I could have slept with at least two or three new women each week in college. I didn’t sleep with most of the women I interacted with because of one reason and one reason only: I was not living up to their expectations about me. Before you even speak to a woman, you immediately get categorized, and women set general expectations about how you should behave. Overstep those expectations, and you get blown-out and cut-off.
What you generally don’t expect, is for women to do the same if you don’t live-up to those expectations either. They might not blow you out or cut you off, but the interaction will generally fizzle out, whether it’s now or later on down the line. I think this is the problem that many attractive men have with women. They get the immediate interest from women, but can’t manage to turn that interest into lays or a relationship. This was the case with both Smilez and Big Country from the old blog; they were two 6’4″ pretty boy white guys who couldn’t get laid. They were both virgins when we first met, always got a ton of interest from women, but it would never amount to anything.
My best nights and interactions with women were when I went full-blown aggressive with women: making-out, not taking any crap from them, pushing for sex, etc. When I did those things, I felt unstoppable. Anytime I tried to tone it down, be nice, or go for a relationship or date, it would almost always fizzle-out. To me, it was just incredibly frustrating. Why couldn’t I just go about things the way a normal guy could?
If you look like you should be a slayer and don’t behave the way they are expecting a slayer to behave, women will think that something is wrong with you and lose interest, especially if everything else about your behavior says that you should be one. Behave like a slayer should, and you will get laid. Now some may think that this applies to every guy, but that is not the case. The same kind of behavior would be frowned upon if you’re not as attractive. That’s why quickly escalating doesn’t work for everyone.
If you are an attractive guy, women are expecting you to quickly escalate, even if they are intending on rejecting you initially. They are also expecting you to be super confident and maybe even a little arrogant and full of yourself. Yes, you are attractive, but if your behavior doesn’t say the same, it’s just as bad as not being attractive at all. Women want to see behavior that is congruent with the way that they are expecting you to behave.