Earlier, I stated that you might have to date a flawed woman or lower your standards. Now, some of you might be thinking: “No problem. I’ll just find a flawed girl and upgrade or fix her.”. Oh my sweet summer child. Women are who they are, and there’s little or nothing you can do to fix or change them. With a woman, pretty much, what you see is what you get it. There is no fixing a woman’s major flaws.
I fell for that line of thinking on more than one occasion. After I divorced my ex-wife, she racked up a huge amount of debt over the years. I did all of her bankruptcy paperwork for her and even set up the payments. What did she do? Skip the payments and continued to rack up debt. With another girl I dated, she had a drop-dead gorgeous face with exotic eyes and a flawless nose, and you couldn’t tell which race she belonged to. She would have been a super model. The only problems? She was heavier than a girl I would usually date, and she smoked. She only got heavier, refused to diet or exercise, and refused to quit smoking, even though she used the “I’m dieting and trying to quit smoking” excuses to lure me in and almost trap me.
I have a few other examples, but the gist of the point that I am trying to make is that women don’t change. If anything, they get worse. Heavier. More prescription drugs. Moor poor financial decisions. Once she leaves those formative teenage and early college years, they pretty much are who they are. Not to say that you can’t polish the good things that are already there, because you can, but you pretty much have to accept the bad with the good.
Is it all bad news? No. I’m just saying that you are wasting your time trying to change things that you don’t like about a woman. And if you attempt to do so, they’re going to get defensive, yell at you anytime you point out or try to fix said flaw, and may even call you emotionally abusive just because you aren’t going along with their narrative of being fine the way they are. There simply is no winning. Your best bet is if you notice a flaw that you can’t live with, or the possibility of it getting worse, is to leave her as soon as possible.
Going back to the good, you can actually polish the things about her that you actually like. And in some cases, they may even eventually outshine the bad. Does the good about her have the potential to outshine the bad? That’s the decision you have to make. Either way, trying to change the bad things about her is a losing game. No matter which angle you try to take with them, if you try to change them, be prepared to get the same reaction a drug addict gives when someone tries to take their drugs away. It’s not going to go well for you.