It is no secret that I make six-figures. What most of you don’t know, is that at one point in the old blog, I was incredibly poor and living with my parents. In other words, I got to see the entire spectrum of the effects of having no money all the way up to being upper-middle class. As a result, one thing that I really have to emphasize, is the incredible effects that money will have on your dating and sex life.
We all know that social skills, having a social life, and appearances are important, but all of those pale in comparison to the effects that money have. Assuming that you are an average-looking guy with average social skills, I would say that money will have a 10x, 20x, heck, even 30x+ multiplier on your dating and sex life. I’m talking results. Not attraction, not phone numbers, and not almost getting laid. Results. And no, you’re not reading that wrong.
When I was broke, even if I did have the looks and social skills with a lot of friends, I put in a lot of work to get laid once or twice per month. A lot of attraction, a lot of phone numbers, but realistically, I could only sleep with a new girl every 2-3 weeks; putting in full effort. When I started making good money, and not even six-figures, I couldn’t keep up with the women. You saw the pics in older posts with women constantly messaging and texting me. I had to cut women off, and go on 2-3 dates per night. I could easily get laid on demand.
But why? Is it just gold diggers? No. Not having money just created so many obstacles and roadblocks, including:
-Women losing interest when they saw my piece of crap car.
-Not having money to get a taxi to and from bars and my place.
-Having roommates that scared away more accomplished women expecting me to have my own place.
-Having to constantly watch how much money I was spending on drinks.
-Saying “no” to social activities because I couldn’t afford them.
-Payday being too far away to pay for “x”.
-Coming up with excuses when invited over by women because I couldn’t afford gas to go over there, didn’t have a car, or was afraid I would have to spend money I didn’t have.
-Avoiding long-distance women because I couldn’t afford to fly out or afraid my car would breakdown.
-Not being able to afford a private hotel room when traveling, so I didn’t have anywhere to take women I met in bars when out of town.
-Not feeling confident when my clothes and shoes were old and I couldn’t afford new ones.
-Not being able to afford to go on dates.
-Having to choose between dinner for the week or dates that might not go anywhere.
-Losing interest from women when they found out my occupation.
-Having to figure out a way to get a girl to take me to her place because I was living with my parents.
-Having to explain why I lived with my parents when I was doing so.
All of that stuff and more just snowballed to work against me every step of the way. You have to be incredibly good-looking or incredibly social to overcome those obstacles on any kind of consistent basis if you don’t have money, and even then, you’re still going to work hard. Money opened the door for opportunities and got rid of obstacles. Not only did it give me more opportunities, but it made my confidence go through the roof, and my willingness to take on risks.
Money had a much more dramatic effect on my results than anything else ever did. And I’m not even talking six-figures or being some kind of rich millionaire; I was married when I started making six-figures. Yeah, some of that other stuff may have gotten me initial attraction, and even laid, but money changed the game. If you find yourself questioning what you should use your time to focus on, focus on the money. That will have the biggest multiplier on your dating and sex life. 10x. 20x. 30x+. It. Changes. The. Game.